Just a word to those who have elderly they no...people 80+...older people should not be burdened or focused on people's illnesses....the details of hospitalizations...people dying...things that r heavy an stressful. They have much to carry an less coping skills. We burden them thinking they need to carry us an our lists of complaints an sorrows. Even if they look gd dont b deceived...as soon as u hang up they cry an become overwhelmed by the details of ur conversation. Only we caregivers no because we r on 24/7. Even if they have some form of memory issues..dementia...or Alzheimers..they whimper all nite....have bad nites sleep...cry....have full body or partial tremor in fear an anxiety an r not themselves. We caregivers lose too much sleep because of the ignorance or arrogance of people not willing to listen to caregivers nor b sensitive to the plight of both elder an caregiver. We r up at nite...have no misconception...but extra problems at nite must b prevented because we caregivers also cant run on empty an have to work an function too. Too often most family think a 5 min call or 1 hour visit makes a dent in 24 hours...Elders who r limited an have lots of time get haunted by negative info like this an their suffering becomes ongoing wen younger ones dump or feel a need to be 'totally' honest even if it hurts the listener..it doesnt just go away an this has a serious impact on their lives an ours... details like this over an over again can push them over the edge mentally an emotionally. Keep ur conversations with elderly lite...an even spare every person by being sensitive to their fears an anxieties. I always shut the tv on those negative commercials or shows...we do not have to live every detail of another's sufferings...we can help...listen..be compassionate..but we always must preserve our own peace of mind an heart as well an no our limits to not become overwhelmed or burdened. We were never meant to carry the sufferings of the world...our own r enough . An we deny people the opportunity to go to God wen we try to b Him. Although media has its place..it often overloads our already burdened nervous systems
We all carry alot in life...but we must not assume our burden is better or worse than another's. This is a common sense issue...everyone should understand not burdening an elder ....an not overburdening anyone is true charity. B sensitive, compassionate an watch an listen for signals wen u r sharing ur pain an sufferings or negative stories to the listener's response. Have the wisdom an self control to stop wen the other is saturated...Anything u can do to help we caregivers an our patients ....all people..is greatly appreciated. All of us r in agreement that we need to protect each others well being especially in the last days of life...
Til next time lets call an elder in our family an 1 friend an bring only Love Hope an Joy leaving our problems to God Alone!!
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