Those of us who are primary caregivers of our parents (an other family members) will experience their loss most differently than everyone else around us. In one respect we saw the little deaths everyday as they aged that many did not know about. But those who take care of their parents from a Love only Christ can give, will grieve differently. To those who love much, give up their life and sacrifice for their parents will grieve much as well. Grief is hard and it takes a tremendous amount of patiences, self care, love, healthy boundaries, an of course prayer to get through. Grief groups do not accept people until at least three months after the death of the loved one because only at 3 months does one actually realize what's going on. 6 months was hard for me... it was at 8 months that things started to shift. Little by little each day improves....tears come from a memory ..a laugh ...as you go through things ..papers.. relive some of the moments with pictures ...it can be difficult. I was true to my grief. I told everyone close to me I needed a year to start... this year I would allow myself to walk through grief. Not to deny or make believe it wasn't there or just focus on the Joys of Heaven, which are real, but to walk through grief well. An after the first yr i would decide how i needed to grieve after that. People often try to force us to walk their way or rush us out of grief or tell us how to grieve... but grief is personal and there was something to the old funerals, especially in Italy where my family comes from, where people would wail at the funeral.. they would allow themselves to have their grief. There's much to learn from the old timers....
Wen i lost Dad 6 yrs before Mom i had no time to really grieve because i had to kick in to help Mom stay strong an continue to care for my disabled son. Wen Mom passed i realized i was grieving both parents since i kind of missed the first...so b aware of this if u have lost both parents.
U will start to unwind like a rung wet towel unwinding. Takes time to actually get used to not being always "on"...u will hurt where u never hurt before physically...an the emotional an mind need alot of self care an rest. After the funeral..u will grieve....wen we love that much...the grief will come. Courage...
Courage !!!
As foreign as it is, enjoy the relief from all the duties an responsibilities u carried. Breath! Rest! An no one can console u or understand except another caregiver whose heart is just like urs😄 Dont expect ur kind of understanding an compassion from one who is not made up like u.
God bless all those who take care of their own with The Luv that trickles from Heaven. We never give up on the weak ones!..The Most Extraordinary Ministry is caring for one soul at a time .
May God b praised thru our Luv an hands an service!
Wen Scriptures talk about the type of fasting God wants, here is the reply....take special notice of the last line! God bless! Til next time...angie
Is 58:7
Is it not sharing your bread with the hungry,
bringing the afflicted and the homeless into your house;
Clothing the naked when you see them,
and not turning your back on your own flesh?
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