Healthy boundaries with bullies/dictators in our lives

Here's a way to reply kindly yet adult to adult wen someone in ur life is pushing their agenda .

'Ty for sharing this with me.  i want to share a few things with u so u can better understand me.  i have been 'working' on myself my entire adult life thru my deep spiritual relationship with God, thru retreats an hermitage, thru my spiritual directors etc. i have learned to listen an discern God in my life an wat i need to do an wen. i want u to understand that my faith walk...Jesus Christ, my practice of my religion...the Sacraments...r first in my life. Other things can b tools an a place of growing an learning, but it is not my lifeline...God is. An walkin with God for me is incredibly individual...in life wat is the rt decision for one is not necessarily rt for another.  i need to listen an do wat God is leading me to. i so appreciate ur heart an who u r an all ur help.  i ask that u respect my discernment an God workin in my life even if it is not wat u think is best for me... an i want to do the same for u.'

We learn over time how to stand up against those who continue to try an control us...bully us...an shame us into doin the things they want us to do an say .  It takes time an practice to remind others that we r adults..that they dont know wat is best for us...That the only advice one has that means anything is "turn to God in prayer...He knows wat is best an He will guide u to the answer!"

Let us grow an answer these people in kindness an respect as we develop healthy boundaries for ourselves. Getting other people's approval or making everyone
happy needs to b removed from the equation. The Only Approval we need us God's!