Rejection....all forms, but especially from a parent brings with it a psychic pain that can also be felt almost physically by some. And it becomes worse as one tries to reach out and continues to be rejected. My son Joe believes,"It takes practice until one day you don't even think about them anymore." This is where a person needs to be girded and surrounded by God by someone praying for them regularly.
Often as they find God, the rejected, often want to open the door to forgiveness and mercy and want to accomplish these great tasks in life while alive. But often this forgiveness is not accepted or a relationship is just not wanted. My son also stated, "It is not worth doing the forgiveness process if it hurts you in the end."
My reply to so many who have asked me about this is.......forgiveness and mercy does not mean that you have to like someone or be with someone or even be in contact with someone. It's about telling God you wish to obey Him and you ask HIM to work through you to help you deep in your heart to forgive your enemy....and my way of reconciling is to just pray for them and God takes care of the rest. Remember we are human, not Divine. If you don't have the capacity for mercy that's when you pray and in time God will give you the capacity for mercy.
God rarely uses family to touch an heal family. He sends others to do that work...just pray for your enemies by handing them to God...Our Lady...just once...and then tell God to always include them in your prayers and good works daily even if not mentioned...and you will have clearly fulfilled your obligation to forgive. And then over time...watch how God works....watch how you grow...and they grow...one never knows where all this can lead...
"TO WHOM THE LORD SETS FREE, HE SETS FREE INDEED!" from Scriptures....Be Free....Be Free in Jesus' Name!!..stop trying to be all to all and let God be that....gifted ones often take on all this responsibility that is not theirs....Jesus is the Savior...not us...we point people to Him, but they are responsible to chase Him for themselves....throw your seeds and let God send others to fertilize...till...and water and weed...unless He chooses to do it Himself......and remember, you are not your family's counselor or spiritual director or life coach...they need to go elsewhere for their help...God first, you second in self care...everyone else after that.
Be kind to yourself today....say no when something is too much...
don't answer any call or text you can't take on today...take a nap...eat well....do something just for you...ask God what you should do every step of the way today....and do what He tells you. Chances are His List for today is definitely shorter than yours....i am taking my own advice here...
NOTHING WE ARE UP AGAINST TODAY IS BIGGER THAN OUR GOD....NOTHING!!! .....EYES ON JESUS!
THERE'S NOTHING IMPORTANT TODAY EXCEPT WALKING CLOSE WITH CHRIST FOR WE DO NOT KNOW THE MOMENT OR THE HOUR THAT HE WILL CALL US HOME TO HIMSELF...NOTHING IS URGENT OR PRESSING EXCEPT LOVING AND OBEYING GOD.
God will guide you...be silent...be still and listen and wait on HIM!
Praying for you....til next time let's forgive....and pray for those suffering great pain from rejection and abuse especially from parents......ang
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